Management guru Edgar Schein at MIT suggests that leaders can choose one of three helping roles* to play when they are asked to help someone:
What is the natural role you tend to play?
What criteria do you use to know when to switch roles?
*Helping: How to Offer, Give, and Receive Help: Understanding Effective Dynamics in One-to-One, Group, and Organizational Relationships (2009), Berrett-Koehler Publishers.