An iconic photo has the ability to freeze a moment in time and tell a story that is much larger than what is captured by the keen artist with a camera in hand. An iconic photo is one that is memorable, significant, and evokes emotions in the viewer. These caught mini-moments slow us down, they captivate us, they surprise us as times as well
The photo of Phil Knight during LeBron James' record-breaking moment is an instantly iconic one that embodies all of these qualities. This instantly iconic moment was captured by Photographer Andrew D. Bernstein.
The photo captures Knight sitting calmly with his hands in his lap, surrounded by chaos as everyone else attempts to capture the moment via cell phone. It highlights his pensive presence as an iconic leader, showcasing his ability to remain grounded and focused even in the midst of a highly charged, historical and emotional moment. The image captures the essence of being fully present in the moment, a quality that is essential for effective leadership. And frankly, for enjoyment!
For those of us who strive to emulate Knight's non-anxious presence captured in this shot, the photo serves as a reminder of the importance of being mindful and focused, even when the world around us is going crazy. The simple act of crossing his legs, as he is depicted in the photo, demonstrates his relaxed and confident state of mind, even in the face of such a monumental moment.
I’ve asked my good friend, Paul Rabaut to add some insight into this space. Paul holds an MBA from Indiana and has a brilliant marketing and leadership lens by which he interacts with the world. Paul is the Marketing Lead at 'No Cow'. He and his wife Lindsey (CMO at “I and love and you”) and their two boys recently moved from Boulder, CO to Atlanta.
I asked Paul to speak to the barriers we potentially face as a Spouse or Caregiver, Neighbor, and as an Executive leader that get in the way of us being a grounded presence and creating communities of care around us.
I also wanted to know how he and Lindsey are planning to combat this as they juggle wonderful and full careers, aging parents, and as their boys grow up.
As you read, consider this question: How will you Lead with Love in this season in all the seats you sit in this upcoming year?
Here is what Paul had to say:
"They used to say a picture is worth a thousand words, but with thousands of pictures being carried around everyday in your pocket, is that really the case?
Technology is beautiful, and inspiring, and provides so much for each of us - each and every day. But there's no denying we've become numb to the idea of being present and in the moment all in the name of capturing the perfect shot.
We're so accostomed to reaching for the phone for the picture/video that when someone makes the choice to be present, we take notice.
Like Phil Knight.
As I thought about the image that so amazingly showcased his presence in a moment of history that many in the sports world thought would never be broken, I was humbled by how challenging the desire to be in the moment can be for all of us.
I think it's important to realize that what we struggle with today in terms of being present isn't necessarily a completely new challenge. We're wired to connect and be present with eachother, but it's easy in the moment to push that need aside for what's easy in the moment.
Take a look at these images...
One of the things as a new parent that really surprises me is how hard it can be to balance the love for capturing beautiful and cute moments with our children's need for a much deeper level of connection.
You know this is the norm nowadays...
Kids take note of this stuff. Mine have even challenged me a time or two at home to put down the phone. We are constantly amazed at how quickly kids can use a phone/tablet. They watch us. They mimic us. It isn't hard to see why.
I want to be more like Phil Knight during LeBron's history making jumper. I want to work harder to have fun when I'm supposed to be having fun. To watch with my eyes and not thru a screen if I'm lucky enough to be somewhere like a history breaking basketball game.
It's ok to let someone else get the shot.
I'm a work in progress for sure, but here's what I try and focus on.
Get your photos or videos up front, then commit to being in the moment. I go to a lot of live music shows. I love getting a quick pic or video of the opening number, but then I really like to be in the moment. There's something so cool about 10, 20, 30,000 people all gathering for fun like that.
Schedule time to be present. We schedule everything else. Meetings, pickups, lunch, etc. Especially with our kids, it's ok to schedule time. Our kiddos are young. The research shows that the best thing for them the moment they get home from school is real, meaningful connection with a parent or caregiver. I'm working hard to make sure that neother me or the kids are reaching for a screen as soon as we walk in the door from a long day of school.
Take small steps. Watch TV. Like... just watch tv. Actually watch the show and fully follow along. Actually watch the commerials if your show of choice has them (I know, it's a crazy thought) - they are designed ot give you a break.
The more you're present, the easier it gets. Someone like Phil Knight has spent a huge part of his life at live sporting events. He learned how to be present at a ballgame. So much so, that when an entire arena reached in their pocket and swiped for their camera app, he was able to fully take it in."
Paul Rabaut
Thanks, Paul!
Here are ten basic steps that you can take to become more present in each of the following three categories:
As a Spouse or Caregiver:
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Put away your phone and other distractions when you are with your spouse and children.
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Practice active listening when your spouse or children are talking to you.
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Make time for regular date nights or family outings.
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Take a few deep breaths before engaging in a difficult conversation.
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Plan thoughtful surprises for your spouse and children.
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Show affection through physical touch and verbal affirmations.
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Practice gratitude by taking time to appreciate and acknowledge the good things in your relationships.
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Take breaks when you feel overwhelmed and give yourself time to recharge.
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Be fully present in the moment when you are participating in shared activities with your spouse and children.
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Make a conscious effort to eliminate negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations.
As a Neighbor:
- Get to know your neighbors by striking up a conversation when you see them.
- Offer to help your neighbors with tasks or errands.
- Participate in community events and activities.
- Practice empathy by putting yourself in your neighbors' shoes and understanding their perspectives.
- Make an effort to connect with your neighbors regularly.
- Show kindness by offering compliments and words of encouragement.
- Support your neighbors by lending a listening ear or offering a helping hand.
- Take time to get to know the diverse backgrounds and cultures of your neighbors.
- Offer to assist your neighbors in times of need, such as during emergencies or difficult times.
- Make an effort to build a sense of community by organizing neighborhood events and gatherings.
As an Executive Leader:
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Prioritize self-care by taking breaks, eating well, and exercising regularly.
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Practice active listening when engaging with colleagues and employees.
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Lead by example by demonstrating a strong work ethic and a positive attitude.
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Encourage collaboration and open communication within your team.
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Show appreciation for your team by recognizing their efforts and accomplishments.
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Take time to understand the perspectives of your colleagues and employees.
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Be open to feedback and continuously work to improve your leadership skills.
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Foster a supportive work environment by promoting work-life balance and creating a positive culture.
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Set clear goals and expectations for yourself and your team.
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Make time for reflection and self-reflection to identify areas for growth and improvement.
It's important to remember that developing presence and becoming a more effective leader takes time and practice. By taking these small steps, you can gradually cultivate a more present and mindful approach in each of these areas of your life.
I'm learning so much about myself, and working on these small steps alongside of each of you!
May we all learn to Lead with Love,
Kevin A. Eastway